There is so much information (and misinformation) about surrogacy out there. It’s important to do your research, and ask questions so you have a thorough and complete understanding of the process. Below are 5 common myths we see when talking about surrogacy. Don’t worry, these are just myths, and we are here to explain the truths within them.
Depending on the type of surrogacy being used will determine if the surrogate is related to the baby.
If your going the Gestational Surrogacy route, then the surrogate is simply a host of the embryo. In this case the embryo that is transferred to the surrogate is already genetically created either by the intended parents or embryo donation (or both).
If your going the Traditional Surrogacy route, then the surrogate doubles as the host and the egg donor. In this case the surrogate donated her own egg to create the embryo that will be transferred back into her. Because she is donating her own egg, then yes, she would directly be related to the baby.
The reality of surrogacy is not for the faint of heart or vain. Most intended parents fall under these four categories:
1. Same-Sex Male Couples who need a host for their donated embryo’s.
2.Fertility Warriors who have battled infertility and have exhausted all options to carry themselves.
3.Cancer Survivors who can not carry a pregnancy from a previous (or current) cancer diagnosis.
4. Medical complications from a previous pregnancy. Whether the complication is physical or emotional, it is recommended (or sometimes required) that a future pregnancy be carried by a gestational carrier.
The bond with a baby and intended parent starts during pregnancy, but carries on well after the birth of the baby. You and your surrogate will determine what kind of relationship you want during the pregnancy. Our surrogates want to share this experience with you and your partner. Attending Dr. appointments, spending time with your surrogate, talking to your baby in belly, and ultimately being their for the birth are just some ways you can create a bond with your baby. But remember, it’s the relationship you create with your baby after they are born that matters the most.
If your doing the Gestational Surrogacy route, then the surrogate is not genetically attached to the baby and does not have any parental rights of the baby. More importantly, when pursuing surrogacy your lawyer’s will have you complete a pre/post birth order where parental rights are established. In many cases, this birth order will make it possible for the intended parents to have their names on the birth certificate.
Remember, surrogates don’t become surrogates to have more children for their own families. They want to help you build your family, not theirs.
While our surrogates do get compensated for their time, and the work they put in to help you have your baby, they do not simply do it “for the money”. Here at Southern Surrogacy, we thoroughly screen potential surrogates to ensure they are doing it for the right reasons. Many of our surrogates felt the call to surrogacy when they were young, while some decided to help others build families after seeing loved ones struggle to conceive on their own.
It’s understandable why these myths are so common, but now you know why they are myths and not truth. We know there’s a lot of information out there, if you need help navigating or still have questions/concerns, reach out. We are here to help you every step of the way!